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19 april Feminismfeminism, 原先被译成 ‘女权主义’；大家好像都不是很喜欢；在近两年，大家都逐渐接收了 ‘女性主义’ 的译法，特别是我们的男性同胞，好像感觉安全了很多，呵呵呵~~~
其实无论叫什么，女权主义者 （如果你觉得舒服，可以称之为女性主义者），并不是一群激进的权力派，她们并没有要求取代男人的权力去统治世界，她们强调的只是人与人之间的平等关系，否定男权制的惯性思维模式，在社会中寻求同等的机遇和肯定。
在中国，很多女性作家都会在作品开头先撇清自己不是女权主义者，充其量只敢小心翼翼的说自己是 女性思想作家；好像承认自己的女权思想就会被社会所不容，被主流思想所摒弃。微妙的心理可窥中国女权主义发展一斑。在如今的中国 （甚至世界），两性平等和女性解放被认为发展得如火如荼的表面下，女权主义者和同性恋一样还只是这个社会的边缘人群和弱势群体。他们只有通过缓和的的方式，甚至与男权妥协，才能争取到一些平等发展的权利。
不可否认，女性已经获得了比过去多多的政治社会经济权利，但是性别歧视还是发生在社会的任何一个角落，否则 男女退休年龄不相等 不会在中国大行其道这么多年而且还有继续行下去的可能。有人说，让女人比男人早点退休是对女人的一种保护；我想他们只站在了男人的角度，用他们的思维定势去施舍和保护他们眼里的弱者，制造表面的保护女性权利的障雾。其实他们真正保护的是他们既得的更多社会机遇的权利，忽视的是女性在社会地位上得到肯定的渴望。试想，在这个以创造有形财富作为社会地位依据的群体中，女性更少的劳动机会和劳动时间导致的结果毫无疑问会是地位的低下和随之的歧视。我在这里强调的不是男女的同等劳动强度，这本身就是一个误区。我渴望的是对女性对整个社会付出的理性肯定。照顾家庭，抚育后代，都不应该被忽视在社会财富创造之外。只是这条路太漫长也太崎岖。
很多时候女性社会地位和机遇的不平等，并不完全是外在因素，自身的认知也是一个关键的因素。完全的男尊女卑和完全的女性极端权力都只是少部分群体，大部分的女性认知是‘ 具有一定的平等意识抬头，却不能克服潜意识里的弱势思想’。表现形式为：思想上希望得到尊重，行为上却无法独立；口里喊着男女平等却渴望享乐和不劳而获；过分的强调权利，忽视了自身的义务和同等的社会职责。于是乎，我们的女同胞们到了25岁还抱着公仔，学者樱桃小丸子说话拒绝长大；自己不会做饭不会洗衣，美其名曰：现代女性；重活干不了，轻活不愿干；希望过上富足的生活却不愿意靠自己的双手去争取，找个有钱老公成为捷径；我们的男同胞们开始大声疾呼：做男人好累！
这绝对不是健康的平等，这是一种扭曲的变形的平等假象。缺少独立的人格和坚强的本性，尊重和平等只是空谈。
‘平等’ 不是 ‘等同’，性别之间的差异是天生的，不可回避且无须回避的。重要的只是互相的尊重和平等的沟通。这是社会文明的标志，是我们努力的目标。
14 april 忧国与爱国---梁启超忧国与爱国
（1899年12月23日） 有忧国者，有爱国者。爱国者语忧国者曰：汝曷为好言国民之所短？曰：吾惟忧之 之故。忧国者语爱国者曰：汝曷为好言国民之所长？曰：吾惟爱之之故。忧国之言，使 人作愤激之气，爱国之言，使人厉进取之心，此其所长也；忧国之言，使人堕颓放之志， 爱国之言，使人生保守之思，此其所短也。朱子曰：“教学者如扶醉人，扶得东来西又 倒。”用之不得其当，虽善言亦足以误天下。为报馆主笔者，于此中消息，不可不留意 焉。 今天下之可忧者，莫中国若；天下之可爱者，亦莫中国若。吾愈益忧之，则愈益爱 之；愈益爱之，则愈益忧之。既欲哭之，又欲歌之。吾哭矣，谁欤踊者？吾歌矣，谁欤 和者？ 日本青年有问任公者曰：支那人皆视欧人如蛇蝎，虽有识之士亦不免，虽公亦不免， 何也？任公曰：视欧人如蛇蝎者，惟昔为然耳。今则反是，视欧人如神明，崇之拜之， 献媚之，乞怜之，若是者，比比皆然，而号称有识之士者益甚。 昔惟人人以为蛇蝎，吾故不敢不言其可爱；今惟人人以为神明，吾故不敢不言其可 嫉。若语其实，则欧人非神明、非蛇蝎，亦神明、亦蛇蝎，即神明、即蛇蝎。虽然，此 不过就客观的言之耳。若自主观的言之，则我中国苟能自立也，神明将奈何？蛇蝎又将 奈何？苟不能自立也，非神明将奈何？非蛇蝎又将奈何？ ------------------ 07 april How difficult to say the truth?当刘廼教授铿锵有力地说：那是人头骨，不是猴头骨，并且愿意为自己的判断承担法律责任 的时候，我不知道大家的心情如何，也许为他的学者勇气而感动，也许对他对专业的信心表示敬意。我也是如此，只是莫名的又会感到一股悲凉，一丝担忧。
其实鉴定人骨还是动物骨骼的生物技术极其简单，只要有样本，几分钟就可以搞定，DNA鉴定技术准确率高达99。999%，几乎没有失误的可能性。可是从发现头骨到科学鉴定却花了这么长的时间，官僚懈怠也许是其一，更重要的恐怕是来自所谓上级的压力。相信在刘廼教授发话之前，公安的鉴定科应该早就已经做出了同样的结论，可是为什么迟迟不肯公开，因为他们要请示上级，要领导批示，同意之后才能对外公布。领导说是猴头，哪个鉴定科的人敢说是人骨呢？
向公众展现真相是学术的根本，虽说现在科学家不用面临布鲁诺说地球围着太阳转就有被烧死的危险，但是其中的隐性规则却左右着学者的思想。政治因素，经济利益，学术斗争，学者名誉；学术，背负了太多学术以外的东西。学术不可能脱离政治社会因素，这是永远的真理，只是承载太多，就不得不让人怀疑学术的真实性和动机。
也许学者的自省不是问题的关键，那只是头痛医头，脚痛医脚的表面功夫，关键是可以提供一个宽松的学术的环境，自由的学术平台，让学者真的可以发出自己的声音。否则下次公众又该等多久才能知道那是人骨还是猴骨呢？
05 april New study reveals love happens at 12 monthsNew study reveals love happens at 12 months
-----by Sarah Drew
Although in 2006 you may be able to meet a date at the double click of a mouse, true love blossoms with time. University of Bath scientists working with Match.com, have found that true love grows over time – for men in particular. The six month study of couples who met on Match.com and sister site, uDate.co.uk reveals that on average couples who experienced “true love” have been in their relationships longer than those who show other forms of love. In the first ever UK study of love and satisfaction in online relationships, the University of Bath has found that true love which scientists classify as “Consummate Love” is evident at around 12 months into the relationship. Consummate love is a perfect balance of three components which scientists believe make-up our understanding of love – passion, intimacy and commitment. In 2005, over 250,000 found love on Match.com. Of the 147 Match.com couples who took part in the study, an overwhelming 61% show that their relationships have high levels of intimacy, passion and commitment. Of these people practically all have been in their relationship for 12 months or longer. According to the study, it is men who are more likely to find true love than women. 67% of men but just 57% of women studied are experiencing consummate love. Women are more likely to experience ‘liking’ compared to men (9% and 2% respectively). “Companionate love” was the next most frequently experienced form of love after consummate love, with 16% of the study. Companionate love is a relationship with high levels of intimacy and commitment but lower levels of passion. On average, those who experience companionate love were 11 months into their relationship. The early stages of a relationship or “first sight” stage often reveals what scientists call “nonlove” – indicating low levels of intimacy, passion and commitment. Author of the study, Dr Jeff Gavin says: “Love is an important predictor of success, stability and relationship satisfaction. Love is a multi-faceted concept, but is viewed in our study as the combined feelings of intimacy, passion and commitment that one has for a partner. To date, there has been no systematic study of love in the context of relationships formed via online dating sites, but with the popularity of online dating, it is imperative that we understand the factors that influence satisfaction in relationships formed in this way.” Of those studied, only a small percentage experienced other forms of love. These are “Liking” (8%: intimacy, without passion or commitment), “Romantic love” (2%: intimacy and passion, without commitment) and “Fatuous love” (1%: commitment without passion or intimacy). Charlotte Harper, UK Managing Director of Match.com, which facilitated the study, says: “When we launched our six month love guarantee last year, we wanted to find out what constitutes “love” and its importance in relationships. We’re thrilled to find that so many of our former members have found true love. It supports our belief that the internet and email does in fact encourage “old-fashioned” courtship. This promotes a kind of romantic courtship that is all too infrequent when meeting potential partners on the bar scene.” She continues: “Our research with the University is on-going. We are currently conducting similar studies in Japan and in Europe, so we hope to extend the research even further in the near future.”
03 april spring comes, anything about me?not coming to blog for ages, maybe iv nothing to say, or too many things to say, or im numb?
Spring is coming,
anything for me?
Life is about waiting and seeing, isnt it? |
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